couldn't agree with you more on that

 

Blame media/ advertisement

Due to all the ads tv and music people believe that shit about looks! Me im tattooed bald bullet holes and stab wounds! As for women i dont like thin women! Too me i woman thats thick is sexy as fuck! Not into bumping bones! Lol

 

I'm a fat woman and I had body image issues for a long time. I didn't like my size and I was always comparing myself to my thin friends. Then, a few years ago, I got involved in the body positive groups on Tumblr, and that was it. I realized that I'm beautiful, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Since then, I've become more confident in myself, I took a Belly Dancing class and performed onstage, and I just feel better. I think we need to stop seeing our flaws and start seeing the beauty and uniqueness we all possess.

 

I grew up in a very abusive environment, I was constantly reminded that I was not good enough, so I'm no stranger to body image issues. I have stretch marks on my thighs, belly, breasts, and arms, my face is nothing special and I'm Un-attractively pale. In every way I'm just average. At least, that's what I used to see in myself, I still struggle with over thinking my physical and mental flaws, but I realize now that I can't change who I am, and that no one is perfect.

I refuse to feel bad about who I am, it's just self-destructive, and the media portrayal of perfection doesn't help anything. It's part of the reason that I judged myself and was judged so harshly by my abuser, the tall skinny flawless women shown in the media just gave everyone an unrealistic expectation of who I was supposed to be. Even the children in media are photoshopped to look perfect! But it's not entirely the media's fault, I believe that some (emphasis on some) parents buy in to the photoshopped version of perfection and don't properly discourage their kids from believing it. If some parents were to simply accept their children as they were and turn off the tv, we might have less insecurities as a society.

That's just my opinion, I'm not trying to have a debate with anyone.

 

Interesting all fat women have a nice face, as well as you do. As long as you have admirers and lovers around you no worries then. Enjoy them both especially the latter

ps: thanks for the photos, you have guts (and spirit).

 

Your ex wife, hope it had nothing to do with your condition.

 

While I am incredibly handsome, tall and sexy, because of some back problems that severely limit the amount of exercise I can get, I've gained about 10 pounds over the last year and a half that have settled around my middle. I'd like to get rid of it because I've gone up a waist size and even then, things are a bit tight, but I can't seem to manage it.

 

I'm just worried that this post makes my b-u-t-t look enormous.

 

I found some courage lying around a while back and posted full body shots (with pants on) in my album.

 

yes I have problems never had a good self image always felt ugly and I never feel like I'm good enough for anyone

I don't think this feeling will ever go but I put a good front on

I would believe someone who called me fat or ugly over someone being nice

 

Im fat but i dont really care that much i am happy with my curves as i love them and so does my girlfriend and so have my past boyfriends

There have been lots of people who seem to have a problem with the fact i don't really care that not everyone finds me attractive or that i don't seem to care that im not skinny and it really offends them that i am comfortable in my own skin for some reason

I always think if someone doesn't want to be friends with me or be in a relationship with me because im fat well then its a loss for them because i am a great friend and i am amazing in bed

 

+ 1,000,000 for self respect and pride!

 

I think there are all sorts of reasons for body issues and some of them can be turned towards the positive. For instance, my father is alcohol-dependent and a binge-eater...consequently I have a fear of going the same way. I was vegan for 15 years and have been vegetarian for all my adult life - 25 years - partly to have a different lifestyle to my father. I also workout with weights daily and admit that vanity is involved in that too.

But hey, as long as I am fundamentally secure in myself, a bit of vanity and health-consciousness is no bad thing. The problems come if being 'fit' is not enough to stop us from disliking myself for the way we look. Then something quite different is going on.

It is a tough one, most of us would agree that women enjoy being with men who look after themselves. Their standards and expectations of men have gone up since earlier generations. But is it worth the commensurate amount of body and appearance anxiety for the men who don't fit in?

 

Not worth it all. I'd rather stay with my pudgy belly than change myself for the people who like that body type. Be the person you want to be for yourself, don't change to suit someone elses image.

 

Okay first off I'd like to just say that I'm in awe of any man or woman that has fought in any war for our country. In that context I thank you Shawdow for being a marine and fighting to keep our freedoms so we can still stay on a site like this. I'm sure u have many good stories to tell and I'm sure they are horrific and hard to tell. I like to say that I don't judge people in the slightest bit. I've learned that through life experience and everyone is beautiful. When I look at amputees, lame, deaf, fat, skinny, obese, bulimic, tatted up, or skinny as a rail, I see them all as beautiful creatures and all pieces of art. Each with it's own story to tell.

Now for me I had a self esteem problem when I was younger. Especially when I was in middle school and early high school but I came to push past the hateful jokes about my weight past me. My parents always told me that people make fun of u because they're not happy with themselves and for the most part that's true and sometimes that's all people know is meanness, being hateful because that's what they were brought up in. To me that makes me sad, I feel sorry for those people cause they've probably never experienced love and that's something u should never go in life without. For me I'm happy with my size and I know a lot of chicks that would love to climb all over me and have me for lunch and in that I take great pride.

The one and only thing I dont like about myself is my penis size. Even though it's the average size for a male I still want it to be bigger, around 7".

P.S. Ladies who have some actual meat on their bones I'd love to revenge too. Don't het me wrong I love skinny chicks and average chicks. But ladies lime submissive09 gets me bjrbin for hot crazy sex. Mmhmm girl ur hot!

 

I tell my boys join because you want to. Not for family tradition, not for benefits but join if you truly believe its right. I will support them no matter what they decide.
They see my struggles, they see me warts and all.

 

How tall are you KE?

 

LOVE YOUR ATTITUDE SUB.. You are a beautiful woman inside and out as far as I'm concerned.

 

Here is how I completely stopped giving a shit about it:

First BDSM play party, I'm watching a guy do fireplay and I really want to try it. But obviously you can't do fire with your clothes on. And I'm overweight and self-conscious and I don't know many people and...and...and...

And fuck it, I really want to try fireplay.

Five minutes later my dress was on the floor and I was on the table having the time of my life.

And I have had zero body-image problems since that day.

 

I'm not even sure of the exact reason(s) I have issues. It could have started as early as my verbally/physically abusive childhood and I know media doesn't help. I know those people are fake and still I sometimes find jealousy in their appearance. I've had people tell me for years that I'm sexy etc and yet I don't feel the confidence I should have. I've even seen pics of me and been like, "Hey, that ain't too bad.", but I never feel like I'm enough for my spouse.

He goes to the gym almost every day and I use to only work out at home. In the past year, I started working out at the gym instead, but am self conscience. All the 20 something yoga pants make me crazy, because I can never be 20 something again and I know my husband can't help but look (which makes me feel worse). I look over and some bitch is wearing shorts short enough to almost see her vagina, while her sports bra gives the great view of wonderous cleavage, AND she's bent over doing some shit ... while she is working out in the weight area where most all guys go (yes, my husband as well). And I want to just get in the car and go home. Why is it necessary for them to do this? My husband is very loyal, consistently tells me I'm beautiful, his soul mate, yadda, yadda, yadda, and yet my confidence is under achieved. It hurts his feelings that "I dont believe him", and yet I cannot stop myself from feeling I'm not good enough. The only confidence I have is in knowing he loves me unconditionally and for that I am blessed.